I wrote this letter to someone I love who's struggling to change their life. Maybe, it's for you, or maybe it's for someone you know too.
Change can be really, really, really hard. Especially if you don't feel ready for it. But beauty can grow in the most unexpected places, and you never know how resilient you are until you've done the things you thought you could never do.
This letter is a simple reminder that there's hope. That the fire can be rekindled and small changes can make a big difference.
Feel free to share this with whoever you think might need it. You never know who might need a virtual hug (or a real one) today.
And for a gift that speaks a thousand words, this art print: "I have decided that this will be a very good rest of my life."
If You're Struggling to Change
I know you're hurting. I know this is a hard time for you. You're struggling just to get through because, let's face it, change can make you doubt everything. But what you're going through now? It won't always be this way. I hope you know that too.
I love you.
I wish I could make everything better, and easier, but that's not for me to do. This is your process, your inner work, and no one can take that from you. Nobody can do the things that only you can do.
It's hard -- trust me, I know -- working on your life from the inside out.
But you realize just how powerful you are. That the world is colored by how you see it. That you see in the world what you carry in your heart.
You watch how things start to change as you start to look at them differently. You know that, no, the things themselves don't change, not really -- you do.
You can't change everything all at once, either, and there are some things you'll never be able to change. But things will get better if you take it all one step at a time. I just hope you keep in mind that the best changes start on the inside.
I want you to know that I believe in you.
After all you've been through, I know you can get through this too. You have it in you. You have everything you need, within you.
I get it, it seems like this shouldn't be happening to you. It shouldn't be so hard. But in truth, "should" is a pretty useless word when you're looking to the past. We can't change what's already happened.
We only have power in the present moment: the power to choose, the power to love, the power to start over.
No matter what happened then, you have a say in how you live now. No matter what's going on now, you have a say in how you respond, in what you focus on, in how you treat others and how you treat yourself.
I love you, and I want you to take care of you.
Know that I'll be here. I'll be a friend to you the whole way through.
You'll get through.
You might mess up, you might get angry with yourself, but don't stay down for too long. Don't believe every negative thing your brain tells you. Don't let your mind make you a prisoner to fear. Don't forget that you're way more resilient than you think or feel.
Please, don't wait too long to be happy.
One mistake doesn't ruin everything you've worked for. If you make one, remember it's the courage to start again that means more than anything. Where you're going is more important than where you've been.
Take more deep breaths. Listen to your heart. Trust yourself. Have compassion for the things in your life that hurt to look at.
The person you've always wanted to be is waiting for you.
The person you've always wanted to be is ready for you.
I love you.
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Which part of this letter did you need to read?
Tell me in the comments. I'd love to know what hits home for you.
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