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Ho’oponopono Prayer for Forgiveness, Healing and Making Things Right

Ho’oponopono Prayer for Forgiveness, Healing and Making Things Right

The Ho’oponopono prayer could be exactly what you're looking for in your relationships -- with others, with the earth, with yourself.

First things first, I just had to make a print of this prayer, I love it so much. Click here to see the Ho’oponopono prayer print I made! It's a unique gift, even if it's staying in your own home. :)

What Is Ho’oponopono?

Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice for forgiveness and reconciliation. It’s more than the prayer alone; it's a process of making things right in your relationships -- with others, ancestors, deities, the earth, yourself.

The family ritual focuses on working through problems together, openly expressing feelings, and releasing each other. It’s the act and intention of holding a space for reflection, repentance, forgiveness, and gratitude.

Special words are exchanged, emotions are revealed, and forgiveness flows both ways. A ceremonial feast might follow, symbolizing the release.

The philosophy behind this practice is that we’re each responsible for what shows up in our reality. We own our feelings and our experiences. So even if someone else has wronged us, we're the ones saying "I am sorry. Forgive me..."

The foundation of this practice is unity: an unbreakable bond connects you to everyone else, even though we seem so separate.

When errors are corrected externally, errors are corrected internally. When you “cleanse” your consciousness, you contribute to the cleansing of the “collective consciousness.” When you forgive others, you, too, are forgiven because...

As within, so without.

Loving each other and loving yourself is kind of the same thing.

When you focus on healing the past, you help heal your life right here, right now. When you right any wrongs in your thinking, you adjust and amend problems in the physical realm.

As above, so below.

The practice of Ho’oponopono helps you understand and heal the experiences in your life that you’ve “attracted” or participated in, or have been affected by.

“In common with other shamanic traditions, the Hawaiian tradition teaches that all life is connected. Ho’oponopono is, therefore, not only a way of healing ourselves, but others and our world as well.” – Timothy Freke, Shamanic Wisdomkeepers

While the Ho’oponopono Prayer is by no means a complete training in the Hawaiian practice, it can be profoundly healing for all you’ve gone through and are still trying to move through.

I recommend it!

It’s helped me identify underlying currents of resentment and self-loathing in my life (from childhood, school, and surrounding my brother’s suicide) so I can “give them up.” So I can be free, and move forward.

You're allowed to move forward. Small rituals like this one can help.

The Ho’oponopono prayer is part of an ancient Hawaiian practice, and it could play a central role in your relationships and your own physical and emotional healing. Its four tenets: repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love. If you're ready to feel better, heal better, and move forward your own way, try this ritual.

The Ho’oponopono Prayer

There are four forces at work in this prayer: repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love. These are reflected in the four phrases that make up the prayer.

The phrases, which you can repeat in any order, silently to yourself or out loud, are:

  1. I am sorry.
  2. (Please) Forgive me.
  3. Thank you.
  4. I love you.

It’s natural to resist this practice at first, especially if you've got a lot of healing to do. I was! After a few times, it gets easier.

You might feel better right away, or feel your evolution like a slow melt into love.

This prayer has a lot of power in it.

It’s why I made a Ho'oponopono prayer print!

How You Pray Is Your Decision Entirely

You can chant these four phrases to address a specific problem in your life (regardless of whose fault it is), your past, your ancestral lineage, or your relationship with the earth.

You could also practice for no reason at all.

You can meditate quietly in a state of peace and gentleness. You can repeat this out loud in front of the mirror.

You can even play with the order of the phrases and see if you notice any subtle differences in how you feel.

(This is why in my book, Sleep Rituals, on page 241 in the Mirror Gazing ritual, I included a different version of the Ho’oponopono prayer. To see it, and 99 other rituals for better sleep, get a copy of the book.)

It’s neat to see what questions arise as you keep up with the practice, like:

  • “What am I sorry for?”
  • “Where do I still need forgiveness?
  • "Where am I still seeking forgiveness?
  • “What am I thankful for?”
  • “Do I really feel loved?” “Why am I worthy of love?” “Where do I want to feel more love?”

And sometimes, the questions can be just as enlightening as the answers.

Don’t be afraid to let the words, and the questions that come up, ferment with time. You don’t need answers right away. Let them come without forcing them.

Give the healing, reconciliation and release time to sink into your cells and seep through your life.

Then again, you might feel better right away... a lightening, a wave of peace, a shower of clarity, a freedom like no other.

. . .

Tell me:

Have you tried the Ho’oponopono prayer ritual? If not, do you think you’d like to make it part of your life now?

If you have or do, tell me in the comments. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

~ Jen

P.S. To strengthen your practice, get the special handwritten Ho’oponopono prayer print I made. Place it where you’ll see it, where you most need it. Bring on the healing.

The Ho’oponopono prayer is part of an ancient Hawaiian practice, and it could play a central role in your relationships and your own physical and emotional healing. Its four tenets: repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love. If you're ready to feel better, heal better, and move forward your own way, try this ritual.

Comments on this post (32)

  • Oct 24, 2021

    Kristen, you have my full permission to share anything I’ve written with credit given. Thank you! Congratulations and best wishes in your project! xo

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Oct 24, 2021

    HI , i am writing a book on Perfectionism. i am writing to you to ask your permission you use a paragraph of your text around Ho’oponopono prayer .
    thanks Kristen

    — kristen

  • Sep 11, 2021

    Thank you for this. And thank you Wounded for sharing as it helped me share. I’m responsible for my anger, resentments and pain I have inflicted by not being more aware of myself and any distortions I had. I had wished that you’d love me like in fairytales and tried to force a relationship before understanding. And not being honest and too desperate for love. Began to see we had an unhealthy connection and it wasn’t right of me to cause pain and problems for you. I work on myself daily to never let my emotions overtake me again. And to let you heal on your journey wherever that takes you. I’m working on releasing any negative feelings, blame or resentments against anyone that hurt or tried to harm me. These past few years have been so hard and I hope you’ll forgive me. I ‘m sorry. Please forgive me. I forgive you. I love you. Thank you.

    — Humbled

  • Aug 01, 2021

    Brenda, your words are beautiful and perfect. Thank you for sharing them! Thank you for being here even though it’s so hard sometimes. It’s so easy to lose sight of the simple beauty in everyday things, moments, interactions. This prayer has been a huge help to me. I’m glad it is to you, too. Forgiveness, connection, reverence for life at all. It makes all the difference. Lots of love. x

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Aug 01, 2021

    I am new to the Ho’oponopono prayer. I only started working with it 6 days ago. And I can feel the difference. I have a way more positive outlook towards life. In comparison to my suicide thought I had about a month ago, where I felt whats the point. We live in a sick word and so little people show compassion towards each other. Those thought are gone like the wind. I am very greatful for the Ho’oponopono prayer. It has changed my life so dramatically in the past week that I have inked it on my body to never forget what the prayer stands for and the growth it has brought to my journey on the beautiful home we call earth.

    — Brenda

  • Jul 05, 2021

    Wounded, thank you for standing in your vulnerability with such courage and grace. Thank you for holding yourself up in love and forgiveness. Thank you for showing us all how beautiful forgiveness can be, no matter which side or end it starts on. Thank you for showing up, opening up, breathing through your pain. You are a light.

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Jul 05, 2021

    I am totally responsible for being full of rage, anger, extreme hate and devoid of ability to give and receive love since a child and attracting similar people and situations. I don’t know why I am like that and going from bad to worse. Please forgive me, I am very sorry for creating these issues. I thank you for everything that I have in life and for your kind forgiveness. I love you. I release the hate. I let go the need and rage. Thank you for punishing me for my rage. Thank you for twisting my arm and threatening me to stop my rage otherwise it would have continued. I am sorry please forgive me. Please heal and withdraw your complaint. Please give me a chance like the chances I have given you. Please forgive me. I have tried to control my anger and depression and pining for you but failed. The fact that you moved on so fast has made me accept the truth about myself and the situation. What I was doing was forcing you to accept me. I forgive you for cheating me, raping me, hurting, insulting, disgracing and humiliating me again and again. Something in me attracted all that. I am sorry please forgive me for harming you and please kindly withdraw the complaint. May we all heal. I am sorry please forgive me. Thank you for forgiving me. I love you and I love myself.

    — Wounded

  • Jun 25, 2021

    thank you for this lovely post, you are lovely and thank you for sharing this with the world, as it cannot be shared enough. Blessings,

    — Sehnaz Phillips

  • Jun 18, 2021

    I Am Sorry Forgive me
    Thank you
    I Love you

    — S Laxmi

  • May 02, 2021

    Hi I have just heard of this prayer, I just had a question as to why I would have to say forgive me? I am currently going through a divorce and on a healing journey what does it mean for me to say forgive me? I don’t get that part that’s all? If someone can give me a little insight?

    — Haley

  • Mar 14, 2021

    I have just learned about this beautiful prayer and practice. I am remembering when in a ritual experience many years ago, in kneeling at an altar for the ancestors, I spontaneously turned to my deceased parents and said I forgive you, I love you, please forgive me, and then asked them to turn to their parents and do the same. I focused my mind on each generation going back seven generations. Then I turned to my adult children and thru seven future generations asking each to say to the next, please forgive me, I love you….

    — Dawn

  • Feb 06, 2021

    Natasha – may this prayer & this practice comfort and strengthen you during these difficult times. My heart is with you and I’m sending you all my love as you carry on with their love in your own heart. x

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Feb 06, 2021

    I found the Hoponopo prayer last year and have benefited from its empowering practise. It has helped me heal some of my relationships and most importantly one with my self,

    I continue to work with it, especially now again this time of the year when I feel I need it after my mother and brother passed over in a span of three years.
    The latter so suddenly.

    It’s very empowering when used for the self too I believe.
    And I really liked that bit about the Hawaiian family ritual of forgiveness.
    Thank you.

    — Natasha

  • Dec 26, 2020

    I say several versions. Daily, to myself and to the one I love. I am here to say to the universe and to all.

    I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

    Just by saying it here. Is another uplifting experience.

    — John Green

  • Oct 05, 2020

    Thanks for the prayer. I wish to know at what time of the day can the prayer be recited and how many times?

    — Susan

  • Aug 24, 2020

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom and this technique

    — Merlyn Smith

  • Aug 17, 2020

    Sukuna, I am sorry you’re having such a difficult time resting. This prayer can certainly help, even using it as a mantra and repeating the phrase in your mind at night might help you let go of all else. I also have to suggest two books of mine: Sleep Affirmations and Sleep Rituals, which you can find here and here I wrote these to support you in big and small ways. x

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Aug 17, 2020

    Beautiful :)

    — Ama Celia

  • Aug 17, 2020

    I’m suffering from insomnia for past 7 years I’m 54 now does this practise help to cure my insomnia n stress?

    — Sukuna

  • Jun 15, 2020

    Miroslava, I’m actually not 100% sure on the words in their original form, but I would love to know. If you find out, let me know… and I’ll do the same. :) I should ask my Hawaiian friend as I’m sure she would be able to point me in the right direction if she doesn’t know already!

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Jun 15, 2020

    Jamie, thank you so much for sharing this here. You are so right. And what an interesting thing to contemplate, that the world is inside of us, subjective, of our making and interpretation. Every time I write, I realize how much more work there is to do… :)

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Jun 15, 2020

    Paulette, thank you. You are a gift to your parents, and to me, and to the world. Thank you for what you did. I am sending you and your family all my love, and wishing peace and light for your mom. x

    — Jennifer Williamson

  • Jun 15, 2020

    Hello Dear!
    I´m just wondering if it´s way to get to the original “key words” but in original Hawaiian language.?
    Do oyou know where can I get them?

    I´m a lover of that culture , I danced Hawaiian for many years, and love that culture. That´s why practicing Ho’ oponopono has great meaning for me.

    — Miroslava

  • Jun 15, 2020

    Hi Jennifer,
    Thanks for your post. It brought a little tear or two to my eye.
    I find hooponopono to be one of the most simple and direct ways to make peace with the world. It’s looking more and more like science is providing us with the idea that there is no universal, objective world ‘out there’, and that everything we experience is actually a creation of our subjectivity, that all of our problems with the world are actually inside of us, and that when we hold onto a resentment, we are actually creating a separation within ourself. Healing that separation with a deep sense of humility, and a willingness to take responsibility for ‘the other’ makes more and more sense to me. I have been practicing hooponopono in the past and found myself spontaneously just see how inside of the person who has ‘wronged me’ or ‘upset my feelings’ there is an innocent person with the same vulnerabilities as myself, and someone who is asking to be acknowledged and valued. Just writing this makes me aware that I still have so much work to do.
    Bless you, thank you and aloha,

    — Jamie Dick-Cleland

  • Jun 15, 2020

    I love this prayer/meditation and taught it to my mom and dad. My mom is in hospice and preparing to pass so I thought it would be helpful for her to emotionally prepare for the journey as well as help dad at the same time.

    — Paulette Fara-Schembri

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