I’ve given up on trying to be perfect because I’d rather show up fully and actually live this life. Perfection is limiting; it cuts us off from what we’re capable of doing, giving, receiving, and becoming. To honor what really matters, I decided there are at least 11 ways you don’t need to be perfect, just who you are in your wholeness.
“It took me a long, long time to realize we are not meant to be perfect; we’re meant to be whole.” — Jane Fonda
You're powerful and you don’t need to be perfect to own that.
Perfection is limiting; it requires boxes to be checked and draws lines to be colored in. Possibility can be messy, but that's what we came for, I think.
You don’t need to be perfect to live the kind of life you came here to live. You just need to be honest with yourself about what matters to you and then build the courage to create your life from that passionate base.
Being authentic beats being perfect, every single time.
We’re meant to be here, living and learning, expanding and creating, stumbling and struggling, loving and giving.
11 Ways You Don’t Need to Be Perfect to Be On Purpose
1. You don’t need to be perfect to help.
You just need to be passionate about why you're helping. When you figure out your “why”—that deep-seated purpose, that burning desire to contribute—then your passion surpasses the limitations of perfection.
2. You don’t need to be perfect to begin.
To put your heart-work out there, to show up and be all that you are, and to do what you can do from this place, you really only need to explore yourself with compassion.
Giving yourself permission to be a beginner is liberating, a testament to what you know in your heart to be possible and a proclamation of what's worthwhile. The journey of becoming is what's worthwhile.
3. You don’t need to be perfect to be excellent.
Excellence is what happens when you do your best, over and over again. Through consistency, your “best” will inevitably evolve, but if it is your best every time, it is excellence every step of the way.
4. You don’t need to be perfect to appreciate yourself.
Sporting strengths and weaknesses is what being alive is all about. It’s not about being without faults or failure, but how you rise and keep going anyway that leaves a positive impact on the world around you.
5. You don’t need to be perfect to love and be loved.
This is something you were born to do, not something that’s reserved for special occasions, or special people.
To love and be loved, perfection is not required. Authentic love wouldn't limit itself like that.
6. You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy of taking a break.
Your perfection certainly isn’t required for you to prioritize your healing, to take care of yourself, to slow down and keep things simple, or to try another approach.
7. You don’t need to be perfect to be resilient.
There are countless times when I didn’t feel strong enough to handle what came my way, but somehow, I still did, and it definitely wasn’t because I was perfect.
8. You don’t need to be perfect to be spiritual.
One of the most profound gifts of a spiritual practice is that it, too, is a practice.
Through compassion, we learn that we don't need to be perfect in order to be worthwhile and whole.
9. You don’t need to be perfect to be successful.
Success is about perception, like most concepts (e.g. perfection, beauty) tend to be, which means you get to define it for yourself. What if you were to base your success on how loving you could be, or on how present and alive you could be?
10. You don’t need to be perfect to feel like life is perfect anyway.
Life can be a gift, even when crazy things happen. Life can be a miracle, even when it’s messy and unclear. Life is perfect, no matter what happens, because life is LIFE. It’s incredible that we’re here at all.
11. You don’t need to be perfect to own your light.
Flowers typically don’t bloom all year round, especially when you live in a world of changing seasons. Embracing those seasons, whatever the temperature and scenery and rate of growth, is a showcase of how the light isn’t dependent on outward circumstances.
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Which of these thoughts did you need to read today?
Tell me in the comments. I read every single one, and I'd love to know!
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