If your soul is tired, then this is for you.
Maybe you just lost someone you love, or you've been carrying around the weight of grief for years. Maybe you're tired of trying to be someone you're not, or trying in vain to inspire change in someone else.
I get it.
Life's "surprises" aren't always that welcome. Sometimes things seem harder than they should be.
Trust me, I get it.
Crazy things have happened in my life that I thought would NEVER happen.
My brother committed suicide. My dad died out of the blue. Friends have suffered loss too young. I started taking antidepressants after over a decade of trying to handle my mental health on my own.
Even small disappointments, if you have too many in a row, can get to you.
And the colder months have a way of turning your mood gray and your spirit down a notch.
So I've been thinking of one of the best prayers that's helped me through these last few months:
They make room for the darkness, the hurt, the hard emotions. And then… that makes room for a breath, for gratitude, for a miracle, for healing.
You can't have only one version of life: the happy times, the easy wins, the perfect relationships. Whether or not you signed up for this life as a human, you get it all.
You're here to experience everything you experience.
Knowing that, accepting that, even embracing that doesn't mean the harder seasons aren't hard, though. It just helps you face them with more grace and self-compassion. Which can change everything.
When it's hard to accept what life's throwing your way, just try this:
“Please help me.”
Or, "Please help her. Please help him. Please help us."
When you've gone through hell and back, you can say, “Please help me grow stronger because of what I just went through.”
Or, "Please help him make the right decision. Please help her feel supported right now."
Look up at the stars and ask for help. Close your eyes and ask. Write it down somewhere. Say it out loud to a friend or to the trees.
I don't think it matters much how you pray, or what prayer means to you... only that you feel it and it moves you.
It's been almost nine years without my brother Mark and almost four years without my dad, and I’m still saying, “Please help us feel their presence and know we're not alone.”
And if there’s someone you’re missing this season, I’ll be saying a simple “Please help us through”... for all of us.
However your life feels crazy right now, at least you know you’re not alone. Because:
Here I am.
The beauty of this prayer is that when you feel the words and trust you're heard, you won't feel so alone anymore. It reignites the flame of our shared humanity, puts us under the same sky, makes one heart open to another.
Aside from all this, take care of yourself. Take care of your moments. One at a time, please.
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What here did you most need to read today?
Tell me in the comments. I read every single one, and I'd love to know.
P.S. For a tad more support, I recommend my Healing Heart Space guided meditation. Could make room for the help you’re asking for...
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