Losing someone is an experience that reduces all others to dust. When it comes to healing from that, support comes in all forms. Friends, strangers. Letters, lyrics. Movement, stillness.
The words you speak, even, can be part of your support system.
It's why I wrote these affirmations, and why I write in general. To give you ideas. To help you illuminate the shadow their death laid on your future.
To remind you that, when the cracks start opening inside you, threatening to break you, you can take that pain and use it to forge yourself into a stronger person.
It's in those cracked open spaces within you where your person still lives. They made that space when they left, and they root there, and what blooms there: that is very much something you have a say in.
If you just lost someone you love, or you did a long time ago but it feels like yesterday, use these affirmations to root yourself in your own heart: where they are.
May these words help you cope with this great loss, with as much strength and grace as possible right now. Wherever you happen to be in your own process.
8 Affirmations to Help You Cope with Loss
1. I am a powerful woman (use your own noun). I have grown in determination and courage. I have always been strong, but through this agony I am forging myself into a woman (or: person, being, etc.) who can endure.
2. I can make it through this, too.
3. I find new strength and new light by helping others through their losses. I find my reserves of compassion have grown too, because everyone is longing to see someone again.
4. I am not a prisoner of my grief, afraid of the very light. I am a keeper of the light, even in those times when my loss consumes me: I am still me.
5. It's okay that not everyone can understand what I've been through. But for those who want to, I can make them understand in a way that will make them braver.
6. It's not a mistake to go on living.
7. My heart holds within it everything you are.
8. Deep in the chasms of my heart, split open by this loss, there's space for a conversation to carry on. The life we shared will take a new form there. The life I keep living will be fueled by what they still give to me: strength, and love.
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Which of these resonate most with you right now?
Tell me in the comments. I read every single one, and I'd love to know.
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