If your self-love is shoddy or shot, here's something to keep in mind.
Your self-love might waver, but your self-care doesn’t have to.
Here’s what I mean...
Loving yourself can be really really hard. A bumpy ride. A hopeless start. There could be a Monday you’re happy with who you are and what you’re doing. By Tuesday you want to escape.
And on the days you don’t even like yourself? You can still take care of yourself.
Tiny acts of self-care keep you afloat in times of self-loathing.
Here’s how I do it:
Eat a good breakfast. Put myself in the sun. Pull up some weeds (granted I could do more of that). Lie down and breathe real slow. Take my vitamins. Do a couple stretches if I can't yoga for a whole hour.
You can do the easy things. The point is that you can do (or not do) something.
Your self-care rituals don’t have to stop when your self-love feels shoddy.
These are the days you reverse-engineer the love and work backwards. The love might not inspire the care, but the care is a path back to the love.
Sometimes, you go through the motions to get the love flowing. And that's okay.
Eventually, you get there — back to a state that feels more like love. One way or another.
Let it be a moment.
Let it be a breath.
Let it be a break.
Let it be a flower.
Let it be a poem read, a poem felt, a poem lived.
And for a moment, forget about the word “worthy” or “deserve.”
Just take care of this moment. Make it a friend. Turn it into something it wasn’t before.
You don’t need to take care of yourself because you love yourself, or because you deserve it.
You can take care of yourself for no reason at all. Let the love come in its own time.
Even in the middle of everything you feel and are and don’t like, you can find love.
There’s love, even inside the not-love.
There's strength, even when you don't feel strong.
But if you can’t stand calling anything “love” right now, take another breath. Step into the sun anyway. Drink tea just because.
Life’s a dance and a poem and a mystery and, well, everything. And you’re in it. And you belong here.
Let yourself be in it.
Let yourself be.
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