If your love language is giving and receiving words of affirmation, this is for you. Sew compassion into your words and you’ll sow happiness in your relationships.
In a nutshell, we give and receive love in different ways. The way you express love and appreciation might not resonate with the other person. Their effort to communicate love might not have its intended effect on you.
Here’s an example: You constantly shower your loved one with gifts, but there’s a disconnect somewhere. Receiving gifts isn’t their love language, but it’s yours. They’d rather hear some positive words of affirmation (a compliment, a thank you) instead. Knowing this, you can speak their language more clearly. And you’ll both feel the love.
“And in the end, we were all just humans, drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness.” — Christopher Poindexter
If your loved one lights up when you give them words of affirmation, here are some ideas to help you send love their way.
Psst: Be sincere and specific. If you say “I love you,” follow that up with “because…”
Sample Words of Affirmation to Help You Communicate Love More Effectively
Words of appreciation
“Thank you for being a positive role model by…”
“Thank you for making my mornings easier and my days more worthwhile. I love knowing that I have you in my corner.”
“You are my best friend. You encourage me when I’m doubtful and inspire me to be my best self.”
“I really appreciated it when you helped me out with…”
“I am blessed to work/live/be with you, because…”
“You make my life easier every time you…”
How sweet a simple “thank you” can be, and how quickly it can sow joy.
Words of admiration
“Your work ethic inspires me to do my best work.”
“I really admire your cheerful attitude. It’s so nice to be around your positive energy and smiling face.”
“You care so much about the quality of what you do. I love how you pay such close attention to…”
“You are courageous because you are genuinely yourself, which isn’t always easy. I admire your authenticity and the ways you stay true to yourself by…”
“It impressed me when you…”
Words of empathy
“I know how tough things have been lately, and I want you to know that the way you’re handling ________ is so inspiring to me.”
“I don’t know everything about what you’re going through, but I’d like to understand a little better if you’re willing to have me listen.”
“It must be really challenging when you have to…”
“I just want you to know that I honor what you’re going through right now. I am here for you.”
“I know you feel broken right now, but I think you are brave and strong because…”
Empathy isn't a burden. The price may be high, but the reward is great: deep connection.
Words of encouragement
“I am so proud of all that you’ve accomplished, such as… and I’m excited for what you’ve yet to accomplish.”
“You are making a difference, in the lives of others and in my life. You help me…”
“I can see you coming out of this struggle with renewed light and passion. You’re a shining example to everyone who knows you. You’re a beacon of hope for everyone who is going through this or will go through this.”
“I believe in you (and what’s possible for you) because…”
“I know you’re capable of great things because…”
“I believe in you.” Words that water flowers. — Michael Faudet
Words of acknowledgement
“You look radiant and full of life today.”
“I really love how I feel when I’m around you. Your energy is magnetic and feels…”
“It makes me so happy to see you following your dreams. You’re a source of encouragement to me every time you…”
“I couldn’t help but notice how you…”
“You were so creative when you…”
“I respect you for…”
“People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” —Cheryl Richardson
Are words of affirmation your love language, or something else? (Gifts, acts of service, quality time, touch?)
Tell me in the comments. I read every single one, and I’d love to know!
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