Grieving the loss of a loved one is, by far, the deepest pain I know. The void feels infinite, lonelier than any silence. There's hope, though, and a love that far outlasts what you've lost. If you want to love your way through these times, read this. It's about what you can never lose.
“In the darkness we can find light. In the confusion of seemingly senseless events, we can find meaning. In such a user-friendly universe, nothing is impossible.” – Barry Neil Kaufman
Time may not heal every wound, but time does bring grace and gratitude, if you stay for the miracle. Time can show you the light of your own being, the resilience of you.
A Few Thoughts on Healing with the Loss of a Loved One
1. You can live in their honor.
Losing a loved one is a human experience. The love that keeps going is a spiritual experience, and a sign of what you can't lose. When you allow their love to live through you and flood the world around you, you honor their presence, still in your life.
The way you live now, the way you take the pain and give back differently, can be your greatest gift and their legacy.
“When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” – Kahlil Gibran
2. You are resilient.
Sometimes you don’t know how strong you can be until you have no choice but to carry on. Which isn't the same thing as moving on. It's about taking this pain and making new life through it, not without it.
If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, know that when you continue loving them in their physical absence, the power of your love transforms physical loss into spiritual presence. That’s how strong love is. That’s how strong you are.
“The reality is you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same again. Nor should you be the same, nor should you want to.” – Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
3. You're here for a reason.
Your loved one lived their purpose, and you are living yours. That purpose is to be here, together, and see what you can learn, how you can help, how much love you can partake in.
Your purpose is ever entangled with theirs.
Remember your loved one’s purpose in your own life, and let their impact guide how you still breathe.
“Love is a sign from the heavens that you’re here for a reason.” – John Ghetto
Put your hand over your heart and feel it beating for you, with you. Every beat is a sign of your purpose on this earth. Feel that life pulsing through your veins, beating in your chest, breathing through you.
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Which of these thoughts did you need to read today?
Tell me in the comments. I read every single one, and I'd love to know.
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